That rarely comes to people under 30. Everything has a price. Want to answer close "on otvali"-answer but know how much it will cost you. And if you have then wine or offense-the price was inadequate. Rasplačivaeš′sâ these feelings for inability to pay and receive the correct price.
Psychological children accustomed to getting everything for nothing: mom can be nahamit′, she was not going to go away. You can change the spouse to report about his discomfort, not choosing to do so, expressions, you can be late, assert themselves at the expense of others. You can all. Still the price then pay, you realize you're the original cost of his act or not.
If you do not understand, then you will suffer from inexplicable relationship for you others, "fate" and proŝelkannoj life. Understand-then your freedom.
With the price we make advances in different ways.
For example, pretend not to recognize the value in the calculation that will give free, because that too might not realize that. Or that it would take for the child and give out of pity or debt. Often it is. But then it is or get stuck in the position of the child or eat only what others do not see the value. In both cases have to be contented with that. Children and halâvŝiki are limited in choice.
And there are people, who blackmailed the fault, breaking price. They are the ones who told how the heavy burden of their birth and how parents ' nights not sleeping. " Or those who lived by the principle: you want my Mama's love-vyslušivaj which dad goat. That is the price, no child beyond their means so much "money". There often appears shame for myself as for psychological niŝebroda, wine and a desire to give all the threads, only it felt good. Not for love already, and that was a feeling of "here, finally got his hands on the niŝebrod and not the parasite more"
Such a habit to pay more expensive, don't ask the price and not worry about it, just forever feel due, guilty, and then hurt and used. Or pay is not what is actually needed.
For example, it is possible to pay for success and productive thinking, and you can fatigue and health. For a happy marriage, you can pay the openness and commitment and patience you insults and edit. Before paying, you have to ask the price and to correlate it with the extent to which this is valuable for you.
Then there will be fewer unnecessary purchases 5 types of valuable years of my life for necennoe for human education. then disappear "bad" and "good", "right" and "wrong", and wine with them, fear of punishment, offence and the victim. There is only the question: am I ready to pay this price?