Thoughts on a circle

Everyone has heard: "don't think about it!", "Get out of your head!", "Don't be obsessed!".

Easier said than done, huh? If

the situation does not come out of the head, if in your imagination, it acquires new understandings, assumptions, details the consequences of this are not as easy to get rid of.

Immediately say, in this article we are talking about a healthy man. About neurosis restlessness can be read on the link obsessive-compulsive disorder.

So what happens when the same does not leave us?

Rationalization

Firstly, even grandfather Freud wrote about this mechanism of psychological defence as rationalization. The meaning of this mechanism is that people in the case of internal conflict are trying to explain themselves and their behaviour, make it look more controlled, rational and logical. In fact this behavior at heart they perceive as wrong or passed.

For example, a person wants, but cannot find a life partner, therefore, builds a theory with a bunch of arguments claiming that marriage is a restriction of freedom, the source of all the evils of mankind, and not understand that actually really need a loved one. Or, for example, a person cannot quit smoking, deep down feels an unconscious anxiety about this, but tries to rationalize their addiction, finding plenty of arguments in favour of smoking.

So, what thoughts on a circle? And the thing is that if there is an internal conflict, the rationalization brings only temporary relief. For example, a young woman talks about the futility of the harm of smoking every time when it comes to motherhood, and her conversation may not be. People again feel compelled to cast arguments, returning again and again to the same thoughts.

Fatigue, chronic fatigue

In fact, tired way of thinking becomes counterproductive. In this state you think, think, think about the same without getting results (output, ideas, insight) need to return to the original data and again pass circle.

A serious problem is that fatigue sometimes chronic. In this case, a similar way of thinking becomes habitual and is no longer perceived as a violation of.

If you have always been quick-witted man, and now what is called "smart" and "zavisaete", please consider this.

The body does not condone irresponsible attitude, your heroism can cost you reduce of personal effectiveness.

Projection

And here's another sometimes quarreled with someone, you came home, and let's cheat: "we had him here is the answer! And then he told me such …. but I give him this … and it is me. .. ".

In these moments you feel it again the same thoughts about something. Actually here the imagination plays an important role.

It is important to understand that in your imagination you are accusing, offends, oppresses not real interlocutor, and that's how it is in your head. But it could be anything, but somehow still you do it to your opponent. This phenomenon also spoke for the first time, Freud, calling his projection. The projection is ascribing a different of those of his thoughts and feelings, which we recognize in themselves cannot.

For example, a woman unknowingly blames himself in a child's illness, but acknowledged that she herself blames her too painful, so it does not recognize my guilt, not giving yourself the opportunity to deal with it, pretending that all is well. But an innocent comment mother-in-law about the health of the child perceived a woman as an accusation, though is in the thoughts of the mother-in-law and her was not to blame.

Therefore, if you are a "skandalite" with someone in thoughts, you know that, most likely, you do it to yourself.

Understand which treat yourself as bad as attribute this relationship different?

Psychological trauma

In a situation of experiencing psychological trauma the same thoughts may not leave person. In this case, the "thought" is a way to cope with difficult feelings, which is necessary to function properly. The necessity of using this method is no longer required when you restore after injury. For this often requires professional psychological assistance. Sometimes people are coped with the situation and way of thinking to take root and is now useless and trudozatraten. Also need to understand with the help of a psychologist, preferably specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapy.

In this article, I tried to address the main mechanisms that could make a person "to drive thoughts" and give practical advice on how it can be stopped. As you can see, the reasons can be many listed here is not all.

It is important to understand that "focus" on a given topic can help us cope with something and let grow. In any case, it requires a lot of time and effort. So you need to understand what more at this stage — benefit or harm.

As you can see, in most cases, one strategy is to be sincere and considerate to yourself.