If I call themselves is interesting to them
Oh, those night talks! How much you can change your mind and perečuvstvovat′ in these long hours! The result of one of these conversations and became this annotation.
"Let them call themselves"-think we call friends, loved ones. "Let him fit"-we say to yourself after the conflict. It seems to us that if we are interested, would need to be loved, then surrounding yourself will show initiative in relationships.
When the surrounding do not, we have the thought, "I don't need anybody", "I care about him", etc. In such situations it is insulting and bitter. To make it easier, we say: ' well, OK, need you hurt me! " It seems to us that this pride. In fact, this behavior is communicating nothing but childish unwillingness to assume responsibility in the relationship, fear of rejection. This expectation is that all of us will love just so that we don't need anything will do. Reminiscent of the rhyme: "loved you without particular reason
For grandson, for what you son,
For that kid, that grow,
For mum and Dad looks like.
For grandson, for what you son,
For that kid, that grow,
For mum and Dad looks like.
This unconditional love can be only between parents and children. The child understand without words, he did not need to do to feel cared for. The mother entirely responsible for his condition.
Adults share responsibility for their relations. If we want to sincerely befriend, we will have to take the initiative. We may be a thousand times interesting surrounding, but not in a spirit of initiative, we give them to understand that the communication does not aspire.
And yet, we really can be anyone uninteresting. The fear that we are rejected, often makes the wait activity from others. Passively waiting for attention, afraid to be disappointed, we childishly expect everyone around will become our mamočku and give us unconditional love and understanding. Perhaps some of us lost heat in childhood, perhaps someone was rejected, but it was in the past. Now we are responsible for the kind of relationship building. So can poproŝaemsâ already infantilizmom? In adult life too interesting. Call friends! )
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