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Find or what is wrong with your surroundings?

Imagine you are standing in front of the mirror, and see your reflection everywhere very clearly, but here's one piece of mirror zamutnen. And no matter how you kept circling in front of the mirror, this part of my reflection does not see. What feelings would arise? Irritation? "Foolish mirror cannot show me holistically!" anxiety?… Read more »

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Wine and provocation of aggression

Describe schema many quarrels in which one partner if "begging" the aggression of the second. One causes the real or imaginary damage other unintentionally, random misstep. Feels guilty. From the zashkalivajushhego guilt and unconscious desire to be punished, he makes involuntary their behavior demonstrative. For example, because the work began later gather at the concert… Read more »

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When parents are unhappy with

The internal confrontation with parents of adult children is exhausted. Even if they have long understood that their lives are responsible for themselves, make decisions without thinking about mom and dad. They do differently, but under the yoke of parental disapproval, spoken or shown constantly, they be still tough. This delayed attention to permanent condition… Read more »

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The aggression of the elderly

The elderly accuse offended accuse. Elders condemn, lecture, manipulated. Old people burn out anger and demonstrations of eerie nature. Old people just don't know what to do with anger and despair on what their body loses opportunities and health, that they are less aware society. Old people are mad at his old age and feebleness,… Read more »

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"He's such a vulnerable!"

Experience tells me that when someone from the spouses begins issuing a detailed analysis of the character of another, the case badly. Often this means that he needed serious justification for destructive behavior of a spouse. The "analyst" feels helpless and wants to somehow explain what other reasons he is obliged to give yourself bit… Read more »

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Part 3. About anger, from which you can get rid of

There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »

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Part 2. About anger and redemption destroying relationships

Part 2 Anger happens when situational infringed your interests have been violated by the psychological border. It also occurs when we are prevented from doing what we have begun. These are two natural mechanism, they are all peoples of the world. Scientist Paul Ekman fact witness. In these two cases, the anger is adequate to… Read more »

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Self-sabotage

The effectiveness of any activity begins when we cease to serve its own neurosis, nature, children's needs-how do you want to call. Here's take the saucepan. It should be washed. If we are hungry, we have pasta, and we want the pasta for lunch, we just my crock pot and cook their own meals. If… Read more »

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Responsibilities in a pair

When people cannot care for themselves, they share household responsibilities: it is him, he Pats shirt kopm cleans. And altruistically type: "Wow, all in the family" And when one does not perform such duties, the other turns out to be deprived of something very important for him. He grudges, vpadanie sacrifice, guilt manipulation. The first… Read more »

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Ideal for you. The story of one therapy

Sometimes I want to shout: "be hell, either! If! Any anything! ". I do not need the reflection of me. I need you! We are very different, I want to get in touch with you, what you are. You're so long studied all please you now a thousand persons. One of them is mine. I… Read more »