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Wine and provocation of aggression

Describe schema many quarrels in which one partner if "begging" the aggression of the second. One causes the real or imaginary damage other unintentionally, random misstep. Feels guilty. From the zashkalivajushhego guilt and unconscious desire to be punished, he makes involuntary their behavior demonstrative. For example, because the work began later gather at the concert… Read more »

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Part 3. About anger, from which you can get rid of

There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »

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About the failure and rejection

Failure-a great tool to get rid of constant in its toxicity people. When you ask not to do more as hurt you, and the person cannot or does not want to deal with your request. Another failure helps in a heap of different cases: when people are uninteresting, but admit it to yourself don't want… Read more »

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For dostigatorov

Listen to be hostage to a medal easily: nosiš′sâ with its dušešipatel′noj history overcome, accept new awards from new friends, impressed by your courage and resilience, or from himself-again-bandwagon.    Painting the head in a wall, to medals as the Leonid Ilich, and next door … Discover her gently, blue, sostarivšuûsâ, and spring. Glacier in… Read more »

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Guilt and shadow: growing up tools

We know ourselves, and in many respects and not want to know. Don't want to know yourself with "disabilities": meločnost′û, ègoističnost′û, anger, envy … And the more we reject yourself-"wrong", the more these unrecognized our features (shadow) affect our behavior and well-being. Rejecting and not noticing these symptoms, we do not become white and fluffy,… Read more »

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That in itself doesn't want to notice

"We endlessly criticize Stalin, and, of course, for the cause. And I still want to ask — who wrote a four million person? "s. Dovlatov each of us has those qualities, feelings, actions, which we so don't want to recognize that and often do not notice in myself, but clearly see them in others and… Read more »

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We are all a little hobbits. Experience in overcoming the fear

My first independently read big book has become this. Yes, "The Hobbit". Now this is surprising myself: I have no important traits. Last year, at the premiere of the second part of the movie came from female Elves total look. When I was a teenager, roleviki-first Tolkien fandoms so razdol′no feel that gnom′em outfit can safely… Read more »

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Frustration need for relationships

Why happy love important experience clashes with ideal and disappointment? Post promised continued) in General, well when this ideal is acting Dad for girls or mom for boys aged three years. Well, when parents have enough maturity to take the emerging sexuality of the child, but be firm that implement its child better in relationships… Read more »

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Why love evil?

Disappointed and hurt in the short term unprofitable. The problem is that we become disenchanted in the other, we have to be disappointed and in itself: you're no longer the wife of the Decembrist, which follows the difficult plight of the husband and the girl, which connected their lives with psevdofilosofom and an alcoholic. You're… Read more »