This is a very important skill and I often see as they are not used for any other purpose and does not give result. Because we actually use them to mask the anxiety. Moreover, they develop early and often stronger among children whose lives are disturbing. Children of alcoholics are able to perfectly guess the mood and anticipate the actions of people. People whose parents could not cope with life's difficulties, perfectly able to generate a hundred options for addressing any problems, even a stranger, even if they don't ask.
It all gave them in childhood, the illusion that the world under their control, but because-they are safe. They know what to expect, were drunk steps on stairs and scandal at home, they believe adults every penny, when the family of the little money they tell mom the right words, so she was not crying, and prepared to eat, they have a plan in case dad still leave … They know the rules, they all understand.
We adults whose thoughts-it wont support a baby the illusion that we can control the world.
The machine breaks down, we are not interested in someone who is interesting to us; death and the disease exist; loved one revels in the role of victim; a colleague comes under the rules.
We exhale, we can't change. Even if you understand why, even if we can prove that this is wrong, even if you anticipate something. We can even in the barrel climb, to think, and the world just exists in parallel, and this does not depend
Separate attempts to control the world from thinking. Mourn the loss of illusions. Say goodbye to the rescuer syndrome, manners and a very intelligent man. The world is bigger than me and you. And it exists, even in what we consider to be inappropriate. He was and will be.
Inhale, and looking for your mind to more productive use.
P. s. you track the content of your thoughts? So they focus on that aim? Are you thinking of what are you considering that thinking? )
And about the anxiety the next time. )
Anna Negreeva
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