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Part 3. About anger, from which you can get rid of

There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »

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Part 2. About anger and redemption destroying relationships

Part 2 Anger happens when situational infringed your interests have been violated by the psychological border. It also occurs when we are prevented from doing what we have begun. These are two natural mechanism, they are all peoples of the world. Scientist Paul Ekman fact witness. In these two cases, the anger is adequate to… Read more »

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Self-sabotage

The effectiveness of any activity begins when we cease to serve its own neurosis, nature, children's needs-how do you want to call. Here's take the saucepan. It should be washed. If we are hungry, we have pasta, and we want the pasta for lunch, we just my crock pot and cook their own meals. If… Read more »

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Responsibilities in a pair

When people cannot care for themselves, they share household responsibilities: it is him, he Pats shirt kopm cleans. And altruistically type: "Wow, all in the family" And when one does not perform such duties, the other turns out to be deprived of something very important for him. He grudges, vpadanie sacrifice, guilt manipulation. The first… Read more »

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Ideal for you. The story of one therapy

Sometimes I want to shout: "be hell, either! If! Any anything! ". I do not need the reflection of me. I need you! We are very different, I want to get in touch with you, what you are. You're so long studied all please you now a thousand persons. One of them is mine. I… Read more »

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"Lethal weapons". Shortcuts and ecology in psychotherapy

Lethal weapons. lethal weapons that lethal weapons is. New pancake term poked in his popular articles by psychologists. With detached so descriptively separately: "lethal weapons borders do not feel" lethal weapons "normally.", "travmatikam" it is peculiar. I see no reason to use this word in the posts for clients. Well not write so indiscriminately about… Read more »

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About the failure and rejection

Failure-a great tool to get rid of constant in its toxicity people. When you ask not to do more as hurt you, and the person cannot or does not want to deal with your request. Another failure helps in a heap of different cases: when people are uninteresting, but admit it to yourself don't want… Read more »

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From zero to plus: overcome fear of pleasure

Led I Pravopolušarnoe three years taught drawing, see people invent reality, not her. Domyslennuû portray hard it vague. As seen already easier trick. Psychotherapy often stumble on something that the customer does not see and does not want to see what will bring him good and wants to hold on to their perception that for… Read more »

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Why I am not friends with customers and don't they have a manicure

Among my clients, many guys are very interesting to me as interlocutors, potential friends, I close their position in life and we have common interests. Also among them is very steep. But I can't have them learn, can't use their professional services or products. Make friends, engage hobby too.  Why? Because I know that they… Read more »

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Compensate for the lack of a father

When I started to post on his page ideal sire messages under the tag #твой_внутренний_папа, I met a lot of misunderstanding.   "Why is that?" "What, mom can not give it all?" "As I have with my dad, everything is fine." "This should give the husband rather than Pope" And have had a lot of… Read more »