At the time of the trauma people as would be split into parts, one part freezes to not feel the pain at the moment of maximum experience, while the other continues to function and try to somehow adjust to life. And we live: like adults, but inside of us is the part which remains forever 3 or 5 or 8 years. When we find ourselves in a situation similar to that traumatic, it turns into napugannogo and the frozen child who cannot do anything to help yourself.
Professional psychological help most often is to withdraw this "zastvyvšuû" and jammed "there and then, in the traumatic situation part in" here and now ", when you have all good when you already know how to take care of themselves, stand up for themselves, and in General can even buy themselves, and some are even all chocolate factory entirely.
The truth is that often I am that help to learn to fend for themselves and stand up for yourself, because such an attitude towards yourself to us often not with whom to take an example: no one about our true needs did not care and protect themselves equal to "thwart mom." When we really consider their needs, show love and respect for yourself, it comes time above work with trauma.
As a result of this work, flexibility and variability appears in behavior, reduced anxiety, and gradually you learn to ask, to communicate, to choose, to feel, to enter into a romantic relationship, and do what you in the way of doing trauma.
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