People come to remake themselves almost completely, because they faced with some feelings that can not bear. Made a mistake at work. Collapsed for this shame so do not carry, that it is easier to hide from it behind thoughts. What? about what he butterfingers, ignorant and irresponsible. I thought it would change. He has… Read more »
Grow from childhood injuries hurt. It hurts to accept refusal to meet with the fear of rejection, scared to ask embarrassing swear and fight, accept-as a sign of helplessness, letting go of hope as die meet condemnation-become a rag in the corner. Nobody makes just so. All this is possible only for the sake of… Read more »
There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »
The injury you have developed amazing skills and characteristics. People unconsciously to that you use, and you don't see anything special myself. Because in a place you have injuries severe pain and you try to avoid it, but along the way, ignore their most valuable characteristics. These skills I met the ability to determine the… Read more »
In experiencing the effects of psychological trauma is such a moment, which I myself call "elucidation of the relationship with God". This is when a person asks the question "why did this happen with me?". Replying to him, people choose most often one of the following options: 1) it's because I'm wrong (shame) and… Read more »
Sometimes other react to something in the US as the red rag: demonstrate against us irritation, fear, increased interest. Strong and extramental predominantly feelings cause surrounding desire to comment on or ridicule, hang tag, set evaluation. In the US, this quality is not bad in itself. However, thanks to the bullfighting in childhood we… Read more »
The days when you had to be strong. Now you can ask for help, laugh and be mild, you can remove the body armor and mask the harshness from the face. You can not get angry and do not demand justice, you can simply ask about something, are no longer enemies. The war is over,… Read more »
We often think that think, and actually it's not thinking it's something interesting … That is considered a sign of mind? The ability to build a cause-and-effect relationships, plan lurking several moves ahead, to see other people's motives and anticipate their actions? Often our thoughts and busy. This is a very important skill and I… Read more »
For access to a psychologist? I am sometimes asked, who are these people that come to me for advice. The answer for me is simple and inspiring. Come to me more often insurgents and revolutionaries. No, it's not political activists. These are people changing the fabric of their family, the sort of… Read more »
The past few months have raised quite acute in my life, and then in professional practice the theme of power. Advice I'm working a lot with men that lies in this plane. This is a difficult subject, lifting tons of anger, fear and shame, because she always appears together with the subject's own weakness…. Read more »
