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The main condition for healing and growth

Grow from childhood injuries hurt. It hurts to accept refusal to meet with the fear of rejection, scared to ask embarrassing swear and fight, accept-as a sign of helplessness, letting go of hope as die meet condemnation-become a rag in the corner. Nobody makes just so. All this is possible only for the sake of… Read more »

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Find or what is wrong with your surroundings?

Imagine you are standing in front of the mirror, and see your reflection everywhere very clearly, but here's one piece of mirror zamutnen. And no matter how you kept circling in front of the mirror, this part of my reflection does not see. What feelings would arise? Irritation? "Foolish mirror cannot show me holistically!" anxiety?… Read more »

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"Lethal weapons". Shortcuts and ecology in psychotherapy

Lethal weapons. lethal weapons that lethal weapons is. New pancake term poked in his popular articles by psychologists. With detached so descriptively separately: "lethal weapons borders do not feel" lethal weapons "normally.", "travmatikam" it is peculiar. I see no reason to use this word in the posts for clients. Well not write so indiscriminately about… Read more »

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Hidden abilities and trauma

The injury you have developed amazing skills and characteristics. People unconsciously to that you use, and you don't see anything special myself. Because in a place you have injuries severe pain and you try to avoid it, but along the way, ignore their most valuable characteristics. These skills I met the ability to determine the… Read more »

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Stage experience trauma "Why me?"

In experiencing the effects of psychological trauma is such a moment, which I myself call "elucidation of the relationship with God".   This is when a person asks the question "why did this happen with me?". Replying to him, people choose most often one of the following options: 1) it's because I'm wrong (shame) and… Read more »

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From zero to plus: overcome fear of pleasure

Led I Pravopolušarnoe three years taught drawing, see people invent reality, not her. Domyslennuû portray hard it vague. As seen already easier trick. Psychotherapy often stumble on something that the customer does not see and does not want to see what will bring him good and wants to hold on to their perception that for… Read more »

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All about sex, except sex

In life everything about sex, except the sex … And the sex Pro what? Often about power or submissive, force or powerlessness, about the existence, satisfaction with different, not always sexual needs. "Have sex and feel that I am, I exist", "partner giving me affection and care that I need", "I like to feel her… Read more »

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For dostigatorov

Listen to be hostage to a medal easily: nosiš′sâ with its dušešipatel′noj history overcome, accept new awards from new friends, impressed by your courage and resilience, or from himself-again-bandwagon.    Painting the head in a wall, to medals as the Leonid Ilich, and next door … Discover her gently, blue, sostarivšuûsâ, and spring. Glacier in… Read more »

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Guilt and shadow: growing up tools

We know ourselves, and in many respects and not want to know. Don't want to know yourself with "disabilities": meločnost′û, ègoističnost′û, anger, envy … And the more we reject yourself-"wrong", the more these unrecognized our features (shadow) affect our behavior and well-being. Rejecting and not noticing these symptoms, we do not become white and fluffy,… Read more »

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That in itself doesn't want to notice

"We endlessly criticize Stalin, and, of course, for the cause. And I still want to ask — who wrote a four million person? "s. Dovlatov each of us has those qualities, feelings, actions, which we so don't want to recognize that and often do not notice in myself, but clearly see them in others and… Read more »