No Featured Image

Wine and provocation of aggression

Describe schema many quarrels in which one partner if "begging" the aggression of the second. One causes the real or imaginary damage other unintentionally, random misstep. Feels guilty. From the zashkalivajushhego guilt and unconscious desire to be punished, he makes involuntary their behavior demonstrative. For example, because the work began later gather at the concert… Read more »

No Featured Image

"He's such a vulnerable!"

Experience tells me that when someone from the spouses begins issuing a detailed analysis of the character of another, the case badly. Often this means that he needed serious justification for destructive behavior of a spouse. The "analyst" feels helpless and wants to somehow explain what other reasons he is obliged to give yourself bit… Read more »

No Featured Image

Part 3. About anger, from which you can get rid of

There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »

No Featured Image

About the failure and rejection

Failure-a great tool to get rid of constant in its toxicity people. When you ask not to do more as hurt you, and the person cannot or does not want to deal with your request. Another failure helps in a heap of different cases: when people are uninteresting, but admit it to yourself don't want… Read more »

No Featured Image

Stage experience trauma "Why me?"

In experiencing the effects of psychological trauma is such a moment, which I myself call "elucidation of the relationship with God".   This is when a person asks the question "why did this happen with me?". Replying to him, people choose most often one of the following options: 1) it's because I'm wrong (shame) and… Read more »

No Featured Image

When you're as a red rag for the environment

Sometimes other react to something in the US as the red rag: demonstrate against us irritation, fear, increased interest. Strong and extramental predominantly feelings cause surrounding desire to comment on or ridicule, hang tag, set evaluation.   In the US, this quality is not bad in itself. However, thanks to the bullfighting in childhood we… Read more »

No Featured Image

Not offended, but offended. Liberating post about responsibility

Today-about aerobatics psychological maturity: the responsibility for your own feelings. When we already learn to take it?   Not insulting me, and I feel a grudge when you … Not you pričinâeš′ me pain, and I feel pain when you … Not you pridaeš′ my life meaning, and I'm looking for only you Not show… Read more »

No Featured Image

Tales about the power of 2 

Power locked fault For the first time, the child begins to feel his personal power during the period from 2 to 4 years. In these years he throws items, "who runs forward, trying to lift heavy bags" help my mother "as well as he has shown stubbornness, loud screams, fights, bite-tries and proves, explores its… Read more »

No Featured Image

For dostigatorov

Listen to be hostage to a medal easily: nosiš′sâ with its dušešipatel′noj history overcome, accept new awards from new friends, impressed by your courage and resilience, or from himself-again-bandwagon.    Painting the head in a wall, to medals as the Leonid Ilich, and next door … Discover her gently, blue, sostarivšuûsâ, and spring. Glacier in… Read more »

No Featured Image

Guilt and shadow: growing up tools

We know ourselves, and in many respects and not want to know. Don't want to know yourself with "disabilities": meločnost′û, ègoističnost′û, anger, envy … And the more we reject yourself-"wrong", the more these unrecognized our features (shadow) affect our behavior and well-being. Rejecting and not noticing these symptoms, we do not become white and fluffy,… Read more »