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Needless to say with a friend about his grudge

Needless to say a friend that his behavior hurt you? What if you're wrong, and take offense at this wrong? You have a right to your feelings, including discomfort from prying action. Recognize that it is Your discomfort may be associated with the actions of another, but no result. For example, a teacher at the… Read more »

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Wine and provocation of aggression

Describe schema many quarrels in which one partner if "begging" the aggression of the second. One causes the real or imaginary damage other unintentionally, random misstep. Feels guilty. From the zashkalivajushhego guilt and unconscious desire to be punished, he makes involuntary their behavior demonstrative. For example, because the work began later gather at the concert… Read more »

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When parents are unhappy with

The internal confrontation with parents of adult children is exhausted. Even if they have long understood that their lives are responsible for themselves, make decisions without thinking about mom and dad. They do differently, but under the yoke of parental disapproval, spoken or shown constantly, they be still tough. This delayed attention to permanent condition… Read more »

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"He's such a vulnerable!"

Experience tells me that when someone from the spouses begins issuing a detailed analysis of the character of another, the case badly. Often this means that he needed serious justification for destructive behavior of a spouse. The "analyst" feels helpless and wants to somehow explain what other reasons he is obliged to give yourself bit… Read more »

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Part 3. About anger, from which you can get rid of

There is another special mechanism of anger, inadequate situation-screwing on yourself. This argument when we go so far as to begin to get angry. And this disc can twist eternally! Sometimes we twist it out of habit, sometimes because the real cause of the anger cannot recognize, she sits deep inside and pushes at the… Read more »

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Responsibilities in a pair

When people cannot care for themselves, they share household responsibilities: it is him, he Pats shirt kopm cleans. And altruistically type: "Wow, all in the family" And when one does not perform such duties, the other turns out to be deprived of something very important for him. He grudges, vpadanie sacrifice, guilt manipulation. The first… Read more »

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About the failure and rejection

Failure-a great tool to get rid of constant in its toxicity people. When you ask not to do more as hurt you, and the person cannot or does not want to deal with your request. Another failure helps in a heap of different cases: when people are uninteresting, but admit it to yourself don't want… Read more »

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Why I am not friends with customers and don't they have a manicure

Among my clients, many guys are very interesting to me as interlocutors, potential friends, I close their position in life and we have common interests. Also among them is very steep. But I can't have them learn, can't use their professional services or products. Make friends, engage hobby too.  Why? Because I know that they… Read more »

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When you're as a red rag for the environment

Sometimes other react to something in the US as the red rag: demonstrate against us irritation, fear, increased interest. Strong and extramental predominantly feelings cause surrounding desire to comment on or ridicule, hang tag, set evaluation.   In the US, this quality is not bad in itself. However, thanks to the bullfighting in childhood we… Read more »

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Not offended, but offended. Liberating post about responsibility

Today-about aerobatics psychological maturity: the responsibility for your own feelings. When we already learn to take it?   Not insulting me, and I feel a grudge when you … Not you pričinâeš′ me pain, and I feel pain when you … Not you pridaeš′ my life meaning, and I'm looking for only you Not show… Read more »