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Part 1. About anger: how not to appear on the scorched earth?
Part 1 Anger is an emotion we inherited from our evolutionary ancestors. We cannot control the occurrence of anger. So all these stories about angry parents (children, husbands, friends, brothers and sisters) Sin-inflated moral requirements that cannot be matched. The discrepancy raises a sense of guilt, and a man in the sense of guilt is… Read more »
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Unrealistic expectations and procrastination
Unrealistic their claims is difficult to recognize because it often serves the unrealistic ideas about the self: I am cool and my ambitions, goals in life, too, must be enormous. "If I can't achieve something grandiose, it means I'm not a grand" Unrealistic expectations are causing so much anxiety that paralyze us in achieving smaller… Read more »
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Self-sabotage
The effectiveness of any activity begins when we cease to serve its own neurosis, nature, children's needs-how do you want to call. Here's take the saucepan. It should be washed. If we are hungry, we have pasta, and we want the pasta for lunch, we just my crock pot and cook their own meals. If… Read more »
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Responsibilities in a pair
When people cannot care for themselves, they share household responsibilities: it is him, he Pats shirt kopm cleans. And altruistically type: "Wow, all in the family" And when one does not perform such duties, the other turns out to be deprived of something very important for him. He grudges, vpadanie sacrifice, guilt manipulation. The first… Read more »
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Right to their vitality
You have a right to their resources. Imagine a circle around himself. Inside this circle of your emotions, thoughts, needs, capabilities to satisfy them: your time, money, effort, ability, things, relationships. All that is generated by your activities and everything that represents and nourishes your vitality. Submitted? So here. You have the right to use… Read more »
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Ideal for you. The story of one therapy
Sometimes I want to shout: "be hell, either! If! Any anything! ". I do not need the reflection of me. I need you! We are very different, I want to get in touch with you, what you are. You're so long studied all please you now a thousand persons. One of them is mine. I… Read more »
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"Lethal weapons". Shortcuts and ecology in psychotherapy
Lethal weapons. lethal weapons that lethal weapons is. New pancake term poked in his popular articles by psychologists. With detached so descriptively separately: "lethal weapons borders do not feel" lethal weapons "normally.", "travmatikam" it is peculiar. I see no reason to use this word in the posts for clients. Well not write so indiscriminately about… Read more »
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About the failure and rejection
Failure-a great tool to get rid of constant in its toxicity people. When you ask not to do more as hurt you, and the person cannot or does not want to deal with your request. Another failure helps in a heap of different cases: when people are uninteresting, but admit it to yourself don't want… Read more »
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Hidden abilities and trauma
The injury you have developed amazing skills and characteristics. People unconsciously to that you use, and you don't see anything special myself. Because in a place you have injuries severe pain and you try to avoid it, but along the way, ignore their most valuable characteristics. These skills I met the ability to determine the… Read more »
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Stage experience trauma "Why me?"
In experiencing the effects of psychological trauma is such a moment, which I myself call "elucidation of the relationship with God". This is when a person asks the question "why did this happen with me?". Replying to him, people choose most often one of the following options: 1) it's because I'm wrong (shame) and… Read more »
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